What always disturbs me about the No Gay Marriage rhetoric is their insistence that they are only trying to protect families, as if families are only ever made up of cishet people.
My marriage and my family are both strong and secure, and totally unthreatened by the idea that my friends Paul and David over th’ar in Houston may get legal recognition of their relationship (which, for the record, has outlasted TWO of my marriages, thankyouverymuch).
My cousins, Ronnie, Gary, and Betty were happy and healthy and grew to adulthood in a home with two dads, because in 1967, the state of California recognized that a stable gay couple were better parents than an abusive, neglectful mother and stepfather. In 1967, guys. They were the first openly gay couple awarded custody of children in a custody dispute in that state. Their family was all the better for having two loving fathers. For the record, to quash yet another damned conservative lie, my cousins are all straight, or were (Gary died in 1998, and Ronnie died during COVID).
I prefer to defend my own marriage. I do not need legislation to do it for me. I have had three husbands. The first marriage “lasted” 15 years, ten of them pretty miserable. The second lasted three, before my best friend “defended” it into oblivion (those two are now married, go figure). Third is the charm.
What defense does a marriage need? Defense against back-stabbing friends would be at the top of my list, obviously. Defense against lethargy and distancing from one another. Defense against the government looking into our bedrooms and telling us that some acts of love between legally consenting adults are not just “disgusting”, but even illegal.
Defense against narrowing the definition of what a marriage IS. A marriage is a covenant between two (and sometimes more, polyamory is valid too!) people and (if applicable) their deity of choice. It is an outward sign to the rest of the world that these people love each other and are committed to living together as a solid FAMILY unit, taking care of one another’s needs, supporting each other, loving each other through thick and thin.
Additionally, there are two aspects to marriage. The spiritual, and the legal. I was “married” to Sam for months before we went to a minister and said the words. In our hearts, in our minds, in every way that mattered, we were husband and wife. Legally was another story, and the legal thing only brings us a few extra rights as far as things like health care decisions, health insurance, and etc goes.
Who the HELL says gay people aren’t capable of making that sort of commitment, or that, once having made it, they should be denied the rights and privileges that come with legal marriage?
I’ll tell you who.
The same people who are eroding our basic rights as Americans. The same people who screamed YES!!! to the Patriot Act. The same people who voted YES!!! to war in Iraq. The same people who would shove their bibles and their morality and their closed minded hate right down our throats if we were stupid enough to open our mouths wide enough. The Neo-Con Fundies. Dubya. Robertson. Falwell. Trump. All those motherfucking pissgarglers.
I vote to defend the right to marriage. For everybody, not just one man and one woman.
If the rest of Texas disagrees, they can go to hell.
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